Here are a few key points to understand this better:
Cognitive Distortions and Psychological Risk Factors
People experiencing suicidal ideation often suffer from cognitive distortions, such as:
Black-and-white thinking (“Nothing will ever get better.”)
A sense of hopelessness (“There is no point in continuing.”)
Perceived burdensomeness (“Everyone would be better off without me.”)
These distortions, which have been found in psychological autopsy studies, are symptomatic of conditions like major depressive disorder, PTSD, bipolar disorder, or borderline personality disorder—they cloud perception and decision-making. Also, a history of self-harm increases suicide risk
Psychache (Psychological Pain) and Suicide as Escape
Suicide is often an attempt to escape unbearable psychological pain, a concept coined by psychologist Edwin Shneidman. The individual isn’t trying to hurt others; they are trying to stop their own suffering, which feels inescapable. Studies show that chronic emotional distress and feelings of entrapment are major contributors to suicidal behavior.
Impaired Functioning and Decision-making
Mental illness often leads to impaired emotional regulation, problem-solving abilities, and impulse control. These impairments make it extremely difficult for someone to consider other options or reach out for help. Research findings from the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) suggests that individuals at risk for suicide often experience neurological changes affecting both decision-making and emotional processing.
Isolation and Social Disconnection
People at risk for suicide frequently feel isolated, disconnected, and misunderstood. Their social support may be minimal or feel inaccessible, reinforcing the sense that they have no place in the world.
Myth of Selfishness and Stigma
Labelling suicide as “selfish” is harmful as it:
Invalidates the real suffering the person is experiencing.
Contributes to stigma, which discourages help-seeking.
Shifts blame rather than fostering empathy and support.
From a therapeutic perspective, it’s more compassionate and effective to view suicidal behavior as a maladaptive coping mechanism—not a moral failing.
In Summary:
Rather than selfishness, suicide is usually an act driven by desperation, mental illness, and a collapse of coping resources. Psychological interventions aim to address the underlying distress and help individuals reconnect with meaning, support, and hope. Compassionate Approach needs to be applied.