Relationships

The Ghosts We Bring to Love: How Yesterday's Wounds Whisper in Today's Hearts

"I don't think you're ready to hear this," she said, watching her client's hands shake around a tissue twisted into nothing. But aren't we all carrying something we're not ready to name?" There's a moment in every relationship when the past arrives uninvited. It doesn't knock. It doesn't announce itself with fanfare. It simply settles into the space between heartbeats, whispering familiar fears into present moments that deserve better.

Jody Eiser
Jody
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The Ghosts We Bring to Love: How Yesterday's Wounds Whisper in Today's Hearts

Key Takeaways

1. Our past relationship wounds create protective triggers that can sabotage current love. When we're hurt before, our nervous system learns to read danger in innocent moments-a delayed text becomes abandonment, silence becomes rejection.

2. The key to healing isn't eliminating triggers but creating space between the trigger and our response. We learn to ask: What year is this feeling from? and Is this the same story or a new one?

3. Real love isn't finding someone who never triggers you-it's finding someone who stays while you untangle yesterday's knots. Healing happens when we love from wholeness instead of wounds, choosing to write new endings rather than repeating old patterns.

Your past taught you to survive. Your present is teaching you to thrive!

About the Author

Jody Eiser

Jody

Specializations
Stress or AnxietyRelationship IssuesTrauma or PTSD
About

I have spent my life learning, growing, and continuing to evolve. My debut novel, The Way We Remember Fire, emerges from this deep well of human experience—blending raw intimacy with poetic depth to explore the messy, beautiful reality of healing, and the belief that every person deserves a love that lasts. Alongside my writing and therapy practice, I bring years of corporate experience in HR and leadership development, as well as creating programs for parents on managing stress for themselves and their children. Living with chronic pain throughout my life has further shaped my empathy, resilience, and commitment to supporting others on their own journeys of growth and healing.

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